I feel like we often miss out on a lot of learning experiences and lose out on opportunities to make deeper personal connections with those around us.
We could so easily add more substance to our day by stopping to ask questions. Whether they be simple and basic like asking how someone’s day is going, or taking a moment to ask a family member or friend about a specific time in their lives or insight on something that is important to them.
“What was it like in the military?”
“What was it like going to college in the 80’s?
“How is your newest project coming along?”
“What was I like as a baby?”
Asking questions that go further than the common “How are you?” Which does have it’s place in the world but is often overused and unsincere, can bring a sort of emotional tether between you and another person. Asking questions that are uncommon or potentially personal can spark ideas, give inspiration to maybe research some thing that interests you, finish your own project, or great gratefulness. We overlook the fact that every single other human has a life and world just as intimate and complex as our own. We overlook that every person has a past and has experienced things that we have not and may never experience. It’s easy to forget that we are collectively one world, but still individual entities that live amongst each other without hardly ever interacting. There is so much to learn from the people in our lives and those we have not met yet. We should be actively seeking out answers to questions, we should have sincere curiosity about the lives of those we love. The barrier of unasked questions is what keeps it easy to feel apathy but do nothing. It makes it easy to move passed those walking by us without seeing the potential of friendships and knowledge harbored within those people’s minds. Sit down and talk, text, email, reach out and don’t be afraid of being questioned in return. It’s time we connect in a world of cold disconnection.